a co-dependent person is someone who wraps their sense of purpose and self-worth around other people. This means that they do not have a strong sense of self
Do you experience anxiety that incapacitates you? Do you experience stress that is out of proportion to the impact of the event?
After saying what you need to say, out of curiosity ask your partner what they have heard and understood to prevent miscommunication. This helps to be on the same page.